Jerk

My mom is a jerk. I'm so pissed at her. Most days, I can't live w/o her, and others, such as today, I want to kick her.

I have my niece today. Her mom is in the hospital b/c she just had a baby. K(my niece) was desperate to go see her mommy, and her new sister. I had mentioned to my mom that I was going to take my 3 kids, and K up to the hospital to see RB (K's mom) and the new baby.My mom went on about how that's so much work w/ all of them, why not drop your kids off here? My step-dad would be more than happy to hang out w/ the kids while K and I went. I didn't take her up on it yesterday, so I called tonight. Talked to s.d. he said he'd check w/ mom and get back to me. 45 min go by, and she finally calls. She says ' what's up?' I asked if she got my message. Which was " I could really use your help tonight. Could you watch my kids for an hour while I take K to see RB, or could you take K to see RB?" She says " yeah, I got it. I told S.D. that I didn't feel like it." ummm. Oh. Uhhh. Don't. Feel. Like. It. This is a little different. Generally when a favor is asked, if you can't for some reason, or you're sick, ok. But- you don't fucking feel like it? Then I continue on about how K really wants to see RB, and how it would be very helpful if she could watch my kids for an hour. And she continues with "Its not MY responsibility. Why would you bring her up there tonight?! That baby is not our family. Doesn't RB have friends, or what about her bf's family, can't they pick up K?" She irritates me to NO end. My bro has had K for the last few days, he had something going on tonight, my hubs is gone, K is very sad and wanting to see her mom. I am not doing RB a favor by bringing K up. I'm taking care of K's needs. I don't enjoy RB that much, but K is my family, and RB is her mom. I don't decide what I will or will not do based on my feelings about RB. My mom continued on some other rant, but basically, b/c RB's new baby is not one of ours, so to speak, there is no reason we should be going up to the hospital. Not even for K. When I asked her that directly, she said "THAT'S NOT WHAT I SAID." and went on some more. So I changed my view point. "Ok mom. I'm not asking you to do RB a favor, its for me. It would make my life much easier if you agreed to watch my kids for an hour." and she again said "NO! I DON"T FEEL LIKE IT" ok, bye mom. WHY would she offer this and then take it back? WTF is wrong w/my mom. I stewed on this a bit longer. Now I no longer wanted her help, but I wanted her to know that it pissed me off, and I thought she was being shitty. I really do know better. You never call Mick back when she's in the midst of a rage. I called. All I was able to get out was "mom, I just want you to know that I'm really upset, and I" and she goes "WHY IN THE HELL ARE YOU PUTTING THIS CRAP ON ME? I DON'T NEED TO FEEL GUILTY. I DO PLENTY. BLAHBLAHBLAHBLAHBLAH and then " PARDON ME, I HAVE TO WORK FOR A LIVING" What in the hell is that? Was she taking a jab at me being a SAHM? That really put me over the edge. But I was never able to say so b/c she didn't take a breath as she moved on to some other nonsense. I didn't even know what she was talking about anymore. Some completely unrelated bullshit. I ended the conversation in tears, and hung up on her. She can be such a bitch sometimes. I was not rude to her, or disrespectful, though I wanted to be. I don't ask her for favors often. Hardly ever. The last time I asked her, was on my anniversary, and she didn't do it. She watches my kids once every 2 weeks for 2 1/2 hrs while we bowl. And not b/c I asked her to, she offered, and she bitches about it every time. I need to find a new bowling sitter, b/c Heaven forbid that I take her graciousness for granted. I will never again ask her for help w/ anything, EVER, even if she was the only other person on the planet. I'm done.